There is a great amount of people who want to be masters in the art of juggling among many things at once. We do this at work, at home, with friends and relationships. Then after 6 months we look back and think, “what have I achieved?” Is it really that great to juggle among so many things? Think about how well you are doing in each of these areas.
Stop the haze and really make meaning of what you are doing. Ask yourself, why am I doing this? Think about the way each thing you do affects all the other parts of your life. Will helping your friend to move to a new place prevent you from spending time with your children? Will taking up that extra task at work stop you from going to the gym, or sleeping at least 7 hours that night? Will going out with that new person you met prevent you from furthering your current friendships?
Everything we decide to do WILL definitely affect the other areas of our lives, and that is OK only if we know how and are satisfied with that. If we take the extra case at work and can still spend time with our family on Saturday, that’s great. If that is not the case, and we really feel that we must spend time with family, we shouldn’t try to shove it all in and sacrifice quality of life, or happiness. We may need to learn to prioritize.
TRY THIS TECHNIQUE I LEARNED
Write down a detailed view of how you see yourself in 20 years (can adjust the number of years from now as you see fit). Write about how you want to live, where, doing what, etc. Write about the relationships you want to have, what type of friendships, how strong are your bonds with your family. Write about all the major things, things that are very important to you. How you want to see yourself and have others look at you.
Now evaluate the things you are doing in your life and think, is this helping me achieve my goal? Why am I doing this? If some of the things you are doing are not congruent with where you want your life to be in 5, 10, 15, or 20 years down the road, maybe you can reassess the feeling of ‘having to do it.’
Let me know what you think and how you feel about this. I think that once I started thinking about my life this way, it was much easier for me to drop certain things that others wanted me to do but didn’t contribute to my long-term goals, and then picked up other activities that would.
Many of us are afraid of being perceived as a failure because we ‘quit’ doing something. We wouldn’t want people to think that we just give up on things. But the fact is, life is meant to be enjoyed, and if you are tying up your days with a lot of things that are not contributing to your goals, or giving you the joy you deserve, there is little good done by keep on doing them. Each activity deserves it’s special consideration, but this is generally true in my experience