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		<title>By: zam</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 19 Oct 2011 09:03:45 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I totally disagree with the above 2 comments.  Clearly the most important advice in this article is this:  do not give advice.  Period.  

To repeat-
&quot;To offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume that he doesn’t know what to do or that he can’t do it on his own.&quot;
- John Gray

The above one sentence says it all.  The main problem is when you give unsolicited advice to another person, you are implying you know better than they do, and that they are are doing something wrong.  

I just had an encounter with a new tenant in my old flat who gave me unsolicited, and quite wrong advice.  It is such a big turn-off to receive ignorant, misinformed advice from a person who does not even understand the situation, e.g. my business.  Perhaps the quickest way to lose a potential business connection is to tell another person who to manage their affairs!

My final comment on this thread: the times we live in today are times where everybody seems to be talking--and nobody is listening.  It makes sense there is more unwanted &quot;advice&quot; being offered. Don&#039;t do it.  You&#039;ll get much farther keeping quiet and, like the author above says, if you must give advice be extremely careful about if the context is right, and the person will even listen.  To be wrong in this is to risk losing the association altogether.]]></description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I totally disagree with the above 2 comments.  Clearly the most important advice in this article is this:  do not give advice.  Period.  </p>
<p>To repeat-<br />
&#8220;To offer a man unsolicited advice is to presume that he doesn’t know what to do or that he can’t do it on his own.&#8221;<br />
- John Gray</p>
<p>The above one sentence says it all.  The main problem is when you give unsolicited advice to another person, you are implying you know better than they do, and that they are are doing something wrong.  </p>
<p>I just had an encounter with a new tenant in my old flat who gave me unsolicited, and quite wrong advice.  It is such a big turn-off to receive ignorant, misinformed advice from a person who does not even understand the situation, e.g. my business.  Perhaps the quickest way to lose a potential business connection is to tell another person who to manage their affairs!</p>
<p>My final comment on this thread: the times we live in today are times where everybody seems to be talking&#8211;and nobody is listening.  It makes sense there is more unwanted &#8220;advice&#8221; being offered. Don&#8217;t do it.  You&#8217;ll get much farther keeping quiet and, like the author above says, if you must give advice be extremely careful about if the context is right, and the person will even listen.  To be wrong in this is to risk losing the association altogether.</p>
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		<title>By: Omar Eduardo Fernández</title>
		<link>http://omareduardo.com/2010/02/01/best-tip-about-unsolicited-advice/#comment-275</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 02 Feb 2010 02:03:26 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I agree that we would be wise to learn from feedback and advice we receive, particularly that we haven&#039;t solicited.  If everyone could do this, our world would be a much more pleasant place to live and there would be no need for this blog entry.  If advice is always given with the best in mind for the other person, and such advice comes from a place of no harm or arrogance, I sure hope people take their time to learn from it.  Thank you for taking your time to comment, I appreciate it.]]></description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I agree that we would be wise to learn from feedback and advice we receive, particularly that we haven&#039;t solicited.  If everyone could do this, our world would be a much more pleasant place to live and there would be no need for this blog entry.  If advice is always given with the best in mind for the other person, and such advice comes from a place of no harm or arrogance, I sure hope people take their time to learn from it.  Thank you for taking your time to comment, I appreciate it.</p>
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		<title>By: qconklin</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 02 Feb 2010 00:01:02 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Some times even when advice is not solicited and not well reacted to it can still be the thing you need to hear. It can be the first crack in the shell of bad habits that lets you see there is another way to do things. I know there have been times in my life when the shock of some one else opion of my actions or comments has made me revalue my position. I guess what i am saying is that just as we should make sure those we give advise to are ready to listen we should aslo try to be ready to hear any advise that may come our way.]]></description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Some times even when advice is not solicited and not well reacted to it can still be the thing you need to hear. It can be the first crack in the shell of bad habits that lets you see there is another way to do things. I know there have been times in my life when the shock of some one else opion of my actions or comments has made me revalue my position. I guess what i am saying is that just as we should make sure those we give advise to are ready to listen we should aslo try to be ready to hear any advise that may come our way.</p>
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